Get Back Together With Your Ex-Girlfriend Just By Becoming Less Available And An Increased Challenge
You were a challenge for her. You had a very high significance and she was irresistibly fascinated by you. Now she's gone and you are saying: "I want my ex back!"
I'm about to make a wild guess here, and yet could it be that as time went on, you have become less and less of a challenge for her? And can it be that now, you might be absolutely no challenge for her? And also that she knows if she wanted to, at any moment she could easily get you back again and wrapped around her little finger just by saying the word?
I'm going to be a bit crude here, nevertheless as you may already know, to become a challenge once again you need to prove to your ex-girlfriend that her sexuality does not have any control over you any longer. Consider what it's like when you are stalking her with not returned phone calls, voice mails, text messages, and emails. And after that consider what it is like when you continue doing it (as many guys do) even after she's told you to stop. You happen to be indicating to the woman that you are a low-value guy with no other dating alternatives.
She is not going to respect you again until you refuse her sexual dominance over you. Thankfully you are doing that now by not personally interacting with her. The last thing she needs to hear from you now is how much "I want my ex back", so stay away from her.
Be sure to stay 100% rigid with your communication cut-off. You should not be "pals" with her, simply because that rewards her with the continued approval of power over you while providing her a convenient justification to stay separated. (Your ex justifies that she is letting you down easy this way, assuaging any guilt she may experience.)
On the other hand, make sure to keep her locked in with the help of your things. More than likely a lot of your possessions are at her place, and vice versa. She may even owe you money as well. She may get a mutual friend of yours to ask you if you want all of it returned.
The right reply to this should be "No, not yet. The reason is simply because her holding onto your things (and you holding onto hers) is still locking the two of you in and ensuring future communication. You do NOT want to provide her the psychological closure that would result from settling your accounts.
For the next three weeks, you have to fully recognize -- and embrace -- the idea that you're an independent guy now. Take what happened with your ex-girlfriend and learn from it. You've got a golden opportunity to revolutionize your life which will eventually allow you to get your exgirlfriend back.
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